Everyone has heard of the expression, “stabbed in the back.” Someone you thought was your closest companion suddenly betrays or abandons you out of nowhere. Whether it be something big like Julius Caesar begin betrayed by his long-time friend Brutus, or something minuscule, like your best friend talking crap about you behind your back, no one likes begin stabbed in the back.
While reading Othello in my English class, this was the only thing I could think about. Iago, Othello’s most trusted companion, ended up plotting against him and wreaking havoc on his life. I’m sure Othello’s soul must have torn in half when he realized Iago had actually created the lie that caused Othello to kill his own wife. This scene led to a really interesting discussion in class about the idea of friendship and betrayal.
From our discussion, I began realizing something.Fake friends are those that stab you in the back. They betray you or only act like they’re your friend in front of you. True friends are those that stab you in the front. That may sound weird at first, but think about it. Anything bad these types of friends say about you is said directly to your face, and only said to you out of sincere care, as they want to help you out. They are willing to say the things that most people don’t want to say and give you constructive criticism to help you improve.
However, it’s often hard telling the truth to your friends, especially if I might hurt them. No one likes being told they’re wrong or that all their efforts went to waste. Some friendships are even destroyed because one person was being too honest and caring, and said something they shouldn’t. True friends, however, who really care about you will eventually find a way to convey to you any hard truth. They are the ones that are keeping out for you. The ones that act like your guardian angel. The ones who help you see past your blind spots. The ones that help you realize what you’re doing wrong.
So the next time, your friend tells you the honest truth, whether it be “You actually do look fat in that dress,” or “I really don’t think you should be doing that to him,” don’t get mad or upset. Thank them for being a good friend.